„Shakespeare in Love“

I have talked about love in several articles before sporadic. But actually love is a big topic in my life.

Love is life and the other way around. If you would ask me: „Ey big guy! What is the meaning of life?“ I would have to answer: „To love and to be loved!“.

May sounds awkward, hypocrite or naive…I don’t care! If it is be honest for me and maybe for some of you then it is enough!  Everyone is having his or her own meaning of life but that’s a topic for another article!

Love is essential for everyone. Even for the hardcore Nazi or the fucked up Taliban. Everyone is living this kind of need in different ways but everyone is combined in the need of love. You will maybe say: „Love is not that important for me!“ or „I don’t think that the Nazi is just looking for love.“ Your good and god given right to think so but do you really want to tell me that none of them is looking for a mother who is saying that she is loving his son or her daughter? No father is needed for a strong hand? No siblings for an open ear? No friends? No partner? I don’t think so! Ever thought about the possibility that the Nazi, who has burned down a Jewish flag around lunch time is coming home and is just looking at his child and his wife and is saying „I love you“? Ever wasted a thought about a Taliban who is crying because he knew that he would kill a whole loveable family with whatever he is doing? If not you may should start thinking about it! Have you maybe thought about the possibility that some things would not have happened if there would have been more love around the person who has done it? No? You may should!

Ever rad Harry Potter? Dumbledore (The good and wisdom wizard) was always saying to Harry Potter (The Hero of it) that Voldemort (The evil bastard) can be as strong as he wants he will always loose against the mighty Potter boy because he will never know what the power of love is.
OK..maybe a strange example and maybe an example that sounds a bit Disney World like but still…it could be true…

Do you want to know what flying feels like? Do you want to know how it feels like to be invincible? Do you want to know how it feels to brake down all borders around you? Do you want to know how it feels like to be as lightweight as a feather?  Ever wanted to feel like in heaven?
You will just have to fall in love!

Whatever it is needed for yourself to become happy..it may starts with this many times repeated word „love“!

Can you remember the first time you were in love with someone? The very first time ever? The first time you’ve met a person and your heart was beating as hell and you were thinking about this person the whole time.
And then…the first try to tell him or her. The first try was most of the time not the successful try. Then the second, maybe the third. It maybe was on a party at your friends house or a trip with you class. It maybe was just a city visit with a couple of friends or in a lucky moment…alone with him or her. The try to tell the person what you feel like, the first touch which ment more and, in case the person was also into you, the magical very first kiss.

BOOM

From now on you are in the club. In the club of people who got kissed.

Do you remember the first real relationship you ever had? It was like the very first love and the very first kiss. But on the other hand it was much more. You were maybe older and able to understand more. You were maybe already in love with the person and you could understand these feelings in your stomach. All these butterflies and the dizziness in your head. You could maybe understand what the other person is feeling. You might knew that this person is much more special then the persons you had before in your life. You knew that this person will be with you and that you will have to share every feeling with him or her. Regarding on all this knowledge, which was possibly more unconsciously then conscious, you were excited as hell and happy.
Do you also remember the first time you had sex with this person? From my side it was the second time but it was also more then special for me.
Your head was working and your heart was pumping. Your hands were sweaty and you were shy. When you are a guy then you were afraid of hurting her. You wanted to make her feel as comfortable as possible. Everyone who is a virgin is probably having his own imagination of the first time. It maybe is romantic, it maybe is spontaneous, it maybe was on the back-seat of a car but it never was painful for the girl.
Do you remember the first time you woke up next to the person? Do you remember that you even loved the bad breath? Do you remember how you have loved the sleepy look of her or him? „Good morning“…it sounded like „I love you“ and it felled like it. The first breakfast together. The first lunch together. The first 24 hours together. Great wasn’t it?

Do you remember the first time you met his or her parents? Were you afraid? I was. Do you remember the first time you met important family members? Afraid? I was! Do you remember the first time you met the friends? Afraid? Lets say that I was kinda excited but not really afraid.

Do you remember the first fight? The first arguing? The first time you screamed at each other? It hurted didn’t it? At first you think that you could never have a fight with this amazing person at your side. You’ve thought „Wow…everyone is complaining about all these fights…I will never have one with him/her!“ You were wrong!

Do you remember when this special relationship broke into little pieces, which were impossible to build up again? Pain..unbelievable pain. It hurted so much that you’ve thought you would die! The world was grey on this day. You maybe cried. You maybe were aggressive. You maybe were just quiet and you’ve stopped talking for several days. You went back to your home and you did not turn on the light. You just went inside, you threw your keys in a corner and you set down in a dark corner to stare into this horrible world. You felt left alone. You maybe felt like everyone is against you. You maybe knew that it was your fault. You knew that you still love this person. And deep in your heart, you knew that you will never see this person again.

One day you stood up and you said to yourself that the time of crying is over and that the world is yours and that there are more fishes in the ocean. You will maybe think that not every fish is like the fish you lost but you will give it a try. You will give it maybe more then just one try but you will try! I mean…what if..? What if there is a person that can fit to your needs more then this fish you are still thinking about in silent moments? Your are not doing it because you just wanna avoid the lonely days. It is because you are looking for love.

You are dreaming about an own family with kids, house, family van and so on and so on. You are dreaming about being a husband or a wife. You are dreaming about being called „Mum“ or „Dad“. Don’t you wanna call the dad of your partner „Father in law“? You will say „Yes“ when you are asked and from one moment to the next you have married a whole family. You are fantasizing about 24/7 family life. Great fantasy if you want to hear my opinion. How many childes do you wanna have? 1,2,3,4? More? Not bad! You wanna spread your love. You wanna share this life with so many persons. You are working to feed them. You recognize that your whole life is focused to this moments! You want to have son to teach him every hook up trick you know, to teach him how to handle the life. You want a daughter to do all the girl stuff you love. You are already thinking about possible names. Eva? Carl? Maybe Emma? What about Jim?OK..the name problem is a future problem! Han Solo? OK OK! Future problem!

But till you can put your energy into the solving procedure you will have to find the right person….

„Love“…4 Letters which can mean a lot!

„I love you“..3 Words which can mean the world!